Dating

This is a subject matter which all my friends constantly ask me about, including older adults, so why not blog about it.

"Do you have a girlfriend?" "Are you dating anyone?"

"No"

"Why? Why not? Why NOT? WHY WHY?"

To start off, let's clear the semantics- what's your idea of a "date"? To most, it's all about "courting" the girl; asking her out, picking her up, taking her out to lunch/dinner/whatever, paying for her everywhere you go, dropping her home......REPEAT.

1. I'm absolutely NOT going to pay to get to know someone.
2. A "date" in the above example is an unacceptable process to me because it's about COURTSHIP. A date is not going to be an acceptable route for getting to know someone. A date is a REWARD for her solidarity, depth, and maturity as a woman- her character- assessed after spending time together without a context.
3. Courtship alludes to Contexts, which often fuel expectations, and expectations, as Buddhism teaches, are one of the most prevalent causes of human suffering.
4. I don't want to download any of her emotional spiritual baggage ESPECIALLY if the relationship doesn't work out....and 'download' her energy indeed you will if you're intimate with your partner- which then references some aspects of my "Groupies" blog.

A woman is not a "prize" or an objective. The prize is a healthy union between you both as soulful lovers.