Abortion

The issue of abortion is answered in two parts, the theory and the application- but perhaps it would be more productive to start with the pragmatism: in order for a person to make the wisest choice about something, which includes a choice that a woman makes about abortion, it must be noted that true wisdom can only come from the energy-vortex located in the center of your chest. In “technical” terms it is referred to as an “Electro-magnetic energy vortex”, although traditionally prior to scientific and technical analysis developments, this vortex has always been referred to as the “4th Chakra”. 

For those who claim to be followers of God such as many Conservatives, you should know that the 4th Chakra is your Soul Center where your connection to Spirit and love enters the body— not to mention that your self-esteem as well as personal relationships will never reach optimal enjoyment unless you’re connected to your 4th Chakra.

Unfortunately, often times even people who try to connect to their 4th Chakra don’t have strong enough resources, and therefore I recommend the second best option which is the following quote explaining how to differentiate an unwise misleading thought from a pure thought deriving from your true innate wisdom, as stated by the internationally best-selling author Eckhart Tolle, "If you really want to know your mind, the body will always give you a truthful reflection, so look at the emotion, or rather feel it in your body. If there is an apparent conflict between them, the thought will be the lie, the emotion will be the truth.” 

Now that the practicalities have been stated, I’ll move on to explaining the theory, which is that the life of a person is comprised of energy, as is everything in our galaxy and Universe. Energy is a commodity which can only be transferred from one state or condition into another, but it can never actually be created or destroyed. There is both a scientific and spiritual perspective to that: scientifically that principle is known as the Law of Thermodynamics, whereas spiritually speaking; people who are religious ought to know that since all life is energy, and the Soul is the life of a person, the Soul is therefore made of energy, and since energy can’t be destroyed, the Soul can’t be destroyed—which could alternatively be explained as that since the Soul is the microcosm of God within us, and since God is indestructible and eternal, our Soul is therefore indestructible and eternal. What people perceive as life ‘beginning’ and ‘ending’ is actually just already existent energy transitioning from one state into another. So, since life is eternal, it therefore does not begin at conception.

And further, an abortion can protect a Soul from incarnating into an environment or dynamic which may be unsafe and unhealthy, and therefore is actually an act of compassion to the unborn Soul, who’s birth then just gets postponed and transferred back to the ‘waiting line’ until it is ready for birth.

How Come He's a "Player", yet She's a "Slut?"

On more than a couple of occasions, I hear the following question put up for discussion:

"How come when I man has lots of women he's praised for being a player, but if a woman has lots of men she's accused of being a slut?"

That is indeed a very fascinating question. After having studied the human psyche for 9 years, I can see why….and it's ironic.

Men and women are completely equal. Both divine beings in male and female form, or just as much animals as each other. Which ever way you want to look at it.

It's evident that women like to be PURSUED. Statistics show- and I've discussed this with my female friends who have re-affirmed- that the vast majority of women are sexually submissive. Women often like men to predominantly take charge, both out in the world(exceptions are made for the business/work context), as WELL as in intimate contexts.

So….in a sense, women just have to say "Yes", and enjoy the ride(no pun intended). That is not a mode which takes very much effort. At ALL.  It seems to suggest that they don't have to (other than the pressure to look "attractive") put much effort into courtship at all. Whereas men for the most part, put a TON of effort into it.

So, if a man has a lot of sexual variety(other than if he's filthy rich and famous- though even still he probably put a ton of effort into it), he probably has "Enough" to offer from his lifestyle- which wealth may be part of indeed, but so might there be many other attributes.

However, women just tend to focus on their looks, and, if they aren't Gold-Diggers, then their careers too. So, they get approached CONSTANTLY, and all they have to do to 'get' the man, is comply. Simple. Therefore, if she's having a lot of sexual variety, then she's saying 'Yes' a lot, which doesn't require any effort- while the men are usually putting in a ton of effort. So….obviously that's extremely frustrating for men. If a woman has sexual variety- most likely effortlessly- and the man either also does with much effort….or maybe he doesn't have variety….then that's not fair to men, pisses them off, and thus the word "slut" is used out of frustration.

I'm NOT saying it's EASY being a woman. It's not at ALL. But in the context of courtship/seduction….it SEEMS  to be EXTREMELY easy. That's my theory. HOWEVER, it's crucial to recognize.......

A woman’s sex life- and overall mental/emotional health for that matter- is LARGELY dependent upon her personal history. And what right does anyone have to judge her for that? I’m answering that FOR you: ZERO.

So, I think the word “slut” is- in acknowledging the fact that it’s most likely going to be said by MOST people if there’s a negative reference, a judgement, encapsulating it. It takes a LOT of mindfulness to separate the linguistics from the energy behind it.

In conclusion, I think promiscuity is totally unappealing, and depressing, and I have zero ACTIVE respect for it on the “Positive Scale”. THAT DOES NOT MEAN THAT I ACTIVELY DISRESPECT HER, MENTALLY OR VERBALLY JUDGE HER FOR IT on the NEGATIVE SCALE. Because…THAT WOULD BE A TERRIBLE CAUSE made by my NEGATIVE EGO, and humanity reflect each other….our Oneness principle taught in Zen. To judge her would be to corrode myself. 

The Age Gap

Here are the common few scenarios for how the ‘Age Gap’ manifests.

It is most commonly initially displayed during high school years; freshmen and sophomores dating or merely ‘hooking up’ with juniors and seniors. Particularly if it’s a freshman female and senior male; THAT would be “PERCEIVED” (in quotes because its ego) as the most “glamorous”.

The next context or scenario would be after high school, where the woman is anywhere from 18,19, or early twenties, and the guy is mid thirties or even older. Give it 15 years.

Another is obviously the cliche theme of the Cougar and Boy Toy. Or also women in their 20s and men in their 40s or 50s. These scenarios are perceivably “glamorized” for young women because in many ways it exemplifies a kind of “Social Proof” for them. A “badge” of sorts. There’s an admiration factor from the girls towards the guys, especially in high school, though also as much in adulthood when the man is in his career. It’s all ironic in all the preceding few scenarios, because the situations stated are acted upon by the participants because of the projected “glamorized” perceptions of what they depict. I think many of these girls/women think “Oh, well I’m dating an older guy, so look how that makes ME look; obviously I’m a substantial, mature, sophisticated, girl for my age”, or for the guy “Look at this young woman I’ve attracted, so I still have my attraction-factor, or NOW I have it if I didn’t earlier in life”. However, that’s actually NOT what we see girls/women.

…Sorry :/

What we DO see though…

For the high school level, a girl who may wanted “Social Proof” amongst her peer group by dating the older guy because he SEEMS more mature and grown up. Validation. Though High School is the most flexible example seeing as the age gap is so tight. Only 4 years at most.

For the next scenario- if she’s in her 20s and he’s in his 30s or 40s- you may feel sophisticated, mature, and like a real cultured adult. But….we don’t see that.

Sorry, women :/

What we DO see? That your man is any or varying combinations of, or maybe ALL of the following: most likely develop-mentally behind in years and potentially not too bright or just straight-up immature, couldn’t attract that preference of woman when he was her current age and so he can now because she ironically perceives him as a high standard and novelty, that she is trying to achieve validation for herself and her friends, and perhaps had domestic issues and baggage growing up which she’s now trying to fill in her emotional voids with sex(which is a form of illusory ‘Means’, as can be money for example) and particularly with an older man(which contains the age gap which acts as the illusory mechanism in her ATTEMPT to “increase” the “volume” of the ‘Means’).

And the Couger/Boy Toy scenario is orbiting the same themes: women want to still believe they are young and sexy, the guy wants the ego boost- assuming we’ve clarified by now that the ego is the domain of illusory validation and insecurity. Though, at least if it’s just a “fling”, and not a longer term relationship then that would generally sub-communicate that she’s just getting her fantasy out her system. Women, it’s not impressive to have a Boy Toy unless he’s an entrepeneur with a virtuous heart. Guys, it’s not impressive to have a Cougar unless she’s emotionally invested in you with a virtuous heart and is physically attractive.

Lastly, the “worse case” scenario, is a young man or woman in their early or mid twenties who’s with a partner much older and both of them are in very unappealing or “messed up” life conditions- in which case we see that the younger partner is most likely unable to attract someone of their own generation because they are in too unappealing of a mental/emotional condition and those of their own age are still “waiting” with hope for someone substantial….and in regards to the older partner, they are in equally the same type of mental/emotional condition, but people their OWN age can see how involved and depressing they are and therefore don’t consider them as relationship material, thereby confining them to be with someone much younger who still has hope and ironically sees the older age as a “novelty”.

These are the GENERAL breakdowns. I happen to know of two couples who there’s a big age gap between, and they are BOTH HIGHLY HIGHLY HIGHLY Self-Realized people, which most who demonstrate the Age Gap are not.

There you have it, a lifestyle hypnotized by ego-consciousness, validation, and the incompleteness of psychology. Sorry…  :-/

One Night Stands

I’ve never had a One Night Stand, nor will I ever. I think the idea alone is really gross and extremely depressing. Look at this higher perspective: you meet someone, and within 12 hours(or maybe even less) of knowing them, you go to bed with them to have the MOST INTIMATE and VULNERABLE experience that human beings can EVER have together. And WITHIN that intimate and vulnerable experience, they are using each other as masterbation tools to get their “rocks off” on each other. You are humping/getting humped by a HUMAN BEING. A SOUL. Who has a LIFETIME of history, a background, potential passions, dreams, and goals, EMOTIONS, memories, a sense of humor; a personality. Life force, breath, a pulse, and energy pumping through them. And yet, despite all the preceding I just stated, you are utilizing each other like Blow-Up Sex Dolls. Like walking and talking devices. AND…when you have an intimate experience with someone like that, you are energetically downloading all their ’chi’ into your energy field, consisting of all the stuff THEY’VE downloaded from their ex-partners, and ex-partner’s ex-partners, and so on- essentially your welcoming a sess-pool of whatever the hell baggage you happen to download from WHOEVER you’re downloading from (you don’t know!) Is that not so goddamn DEPRESSING??? EWWW.  I mean, JEEZ. That’s so degrading for a person’s esteem. It requires little to ZERO standards. UGH, *gag reflex*. Opening up your “flood gates” to just “someone”? Ewwww. If they have depression, be prepared to download their depression into your energy field, and not only that, but it’s not like their even WORTH it- it’s not like we’re talking about your future spouse or anything. Blahhh. *insert gag reflex here*. Good luck raising your esteem again after that :/ That seems like martyrdom: “Hey, thanks for unloading your ‘dirty’ chi into me even though we don’t know each other well, now goodbye!”. At LEAST if you both are in a relationship there a long term investment of love with would HEAL the depression. Otherwise, YUCK! But that’s just a slightly more extreme scenario. Not to mention, many men would sadly hump any woman with a pulse. While women who partake in One Night Stands in the first place don’t even have balanced esteem or self-image in the first place. Godspeed :(Of course, if a person has been mindful of any of the above until now, then obviously that’s totally reasonable. That’s the journey of being human. Women should just masterbate until they meet “Mr. Right” and men should just practice Tantric Self-Pleasure until they meet “Ms. Right”….not to say there’s “Wrong”, I just meet someone who you’re truly interested in: mind, body and Soul.