The Age Gap

Here are the common few scenarios for how the ‘Age Gap’ manifests.

It is most commonly initially displayed during high school years; freshmen and sophomores dating or merely ‘hooking up’ with juniors and seniors. Particularly if it’s a freshman female and senior male; THAT would be “PERCEIVED” (in quotes because its ego) as the most “glamorous”.

The next context or scenario would be after high school, where the woman is anywhere from 18,19, or early twenties, and the guy is mid thirties or even older. Give it 15 years.

Another is obviously the cliche theme of the Cougar and Boy Toy. Or also women in their 20s and men in their 40s or 50s. These scenarios are perceivably “glamorized” for young women because in many ways it exemplifies a kind of “Social Proof” for them. A “badge” of sorts. There’s an admiration factor from the girls towards the guys, especially in high school, though also as much in adulthood when the man is in his career. It’s all ironic in all the preceding few scenarios, because the situations stated are acted upon by the participants because of the projected “glamorized” perceptions of what they depict. I think many of these girls/women think “Oh, well I’m dating an older guy, so look how that makes ME look; obviously I’m a substantial, mature, sophisticated, girl for my age”, or for the guy “Look at this young woman I’ve attracted, so I still have my attraction-factor, or NOW I have it if I didn’t earlier in life”. However, that’s actually NOT what we see girls/women.

…Sorry :/

What we DO see though…

For the high school level, a girl who may wanted “Social Proof” amongst her peer group by dating the older guy because he SEEMS more mature and grown up. Validation. Though High School is the most flexible example seeing as the age gap is so tight. Only 4 years at most.

For the next scenario- if she’s in her 20s and he’s in his 30s or 40s- you may feel sophisticated, mature, and like a real cultured adult. But….we don’t see that.

Sorry, women :/

What we DO see? That your man is any or varying combinations of, or maybe ALL of the following: most likely develop-mentally behind in years and potentially not too bright or just straight-up immature, couldn’t attract that preference of woman when he was her current age and so he can now because she ironically perceives him as a high standard and novelty, that she is trying to achieve validation for herself and her friends, and perhaps had domestic issues and baggage growing up which she’s now trying to fill in her emotional voids with sex(which is a form of illusory ‘Means’, as can be money for example) and particularly with an older man(which contains the age gap which acts as the illusory mechanism in her ATTEMPT to “increase” the “volume” of the ‘Means’).

And the Couger/Boy Toy scenario is orbiting the same themes: women want to still believe they are young and sexy, the guy wants the ego boost- assuming we’ve clarified by now that the ego is the domain of illusory validation and insecurity. Though, at least if it’s just a “fling”, and not a longer term relationship then that would generally sub-communicate that she’s just getting her fantasy out her system. Women, it’s not impressive to have a Boy Toy unless he’s an entrepeneur with a virtuous heart. Guys, it’s not impressive to have a Cougar unless she’s emotionally invested in you with a virtuous heart and is physically attractive.

Lastly, the “worse case” scenario, is a young man or woman in their early or mid twenties who’s with a partner much older and both of them are in very unappealing or “messed up” life conditions- in which case we see that the younger partner is most likely unable to attract someone of their own generation because they are in too unappealing of a mental/emotional condition and those of their own age are still “waiting” with hope for someone substantial….and in regards to the older partner, they are in equally the same type of mental/emotional condition, but people their OWN age can see how involved and depressing they are and therefore don’t consider them as relationship material, thereby confining them to be with someone much younger who still has hope and ironically sees the older age as a “novelty”.

These are the GENERAL breakdowns. I happen to know of two couples who there’s a big age gap between, and they are BOTH HIGHLY HIGHLY HIGHLY Self-Realized people, which most who demonstrate the Age Gap are not.

There you have it, a lifestyle hypnotized by ego-consciousness, validation, and the incompleteness of psychology. Sorry…  :-/