MARRIAGE
I've had a few occasions where marriage has come up in conversations among people, and I say "Well, tell me....what is marriage?" Then they'll say "It's the loving union between two people". I reply "Um...no, that's what a relationship is. But what's MARRIAGE?" MARRIAGE IS AN ILLUSION. It doesn't mean anything and no one will prove anything special, sacred, or holy through marriage. Marriage is a ring and a piece of paper (certificate). THAT'S IT. Your "wedding"(label) is strictly an event which the human mind has attributed it's own meaning to based on social conditioning. A man could show me his "wedding ring"(just a piece of jewelry with that label) and tell me about his "wife", or "girlfriend", "lover", ("woman who he loves and signed a piece of paper with").
It's funny sometimes when I meet a couple, and they have this proud solid tone in their voice as they introduce you to their significant other, saying "...this MY WIFE", or "...this is MY HUSBAND" and I hear the subtle proud emphasis of their words on HUSBAND/WIFE...as if they think that by using such labels I suddenly see them as being in an exclusive transcendental force-field of matrimony. NOPE. You aren't any closer to your partner through marriage.
Your signed certificate is then sent to a legal office("legal" means government associated and governments are run by common mortals) where it gets filed away in a drawer by a clerk. And no, the clerk isn't Jesus either. The woman changes her last name(your name isn't you, it's a mental label. You are a Soul) to his. Marriage does not mean you've found The One(there are exceptions with psychic phenomena), it means you have enough FAITH to INTEND on being exclusive for the rest of your life. If you want to drop 200 grand in honor of a silver ring and piece of paper, go for it, provided you realize the two of you are no closer together because of it. Marriage(when its heartfelt and genuine rather than for finances and legality) is a
It's funny sometimes when I meet a couple, and they have this proud solid tone in their voice as they introduce you to their significant other, saying "...this MY WIFE", or "...this is MY HUSBAND" and I hear the subtle proud emphasis of their words on HUSBAND/WIFE...as if they think that by using such labels I suddenly see them as being in an exclusive transcendental force-field of matrimony. NOPE. You aren't any closer to your partner through marriage.
Your signed certificate is then sent to a legal office("legal" means government associated and governments are run by common mortals) where it gets filed away in a drawer by a clerk. And no, the clerk isn't Jesus either. The woman changes her last name(your name isn't you, it's a mental label. You are a Soul) to his. Marriage does not mean you've found The One(there are exceptions with psychic phenomena), it means you have enough FAITH to INTEND on being exclusive for the rest of your life. If you want to drop 200 grand in honor of a silver ring and piece of paper, go for it, provided you realize the two of you are no closer together because of it. Marriage(when its heartfelt and genuine rather than for finances and legality) is a
celebration of the love you have for each other.....but then would you not celebrate that everyday anyway? Does celebrating love really require thousands of dollars, a DJ, jazz band, and catering? No. So, should you drop thousands of dollars on your wedding? Sure, why not? Have a ball. But just realize what your wedding/marriage really IS: A PIECE OF PAPER. PERIOD.
I like what you're saying about the fact that 'marriage' can be an illusion. At the same time, it has existed since the beginning of civilization. Personally, I love weddings. The spiritual implications of a wedding is a moving thing to behold. I have to resist myself from tearing up at most weddings - I become overwhelmed by a beautiful energy I can't understand. Even if it's an illusion, it's one that is amazing to experience.
ReplyDeleteIt's not a 'can be', it IS. It's a 'decoration' of feelings and intentions. I love weddings, too. They're festive and really enjoyable illusions. I wouldn't say there are spiritual implications, but more technically RELIGIOUS, and yes they're moving CONCEPTS, but not to say they're also TRUTHS. The energy at weddings can absolutely be beautiful, and I can completely understand getting emotional, that's wonderful, but it's not because of what's happening, it's because of exactly what you said; it's an emotional and spiritual union, and when all that emotion becomes collective in a group, you'll totally get sucked into it(give or take). If it were a hotdog-eating contest with the same contextualization and sentiment behind it as a wedding, it would have the same potential is what I'm saying.
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