Bad Boys

This topic of Bad Boys I actually wrote about twice in two different writing docs, but I thought it would be interesting to post both versions here just so people could get a varied style of explanation:

First Version:

Let's address the two connected questions of "Why do women like Bad Boys" and "Why do 'Nice Guys' finish last". First of all, it depends what you define as a "nice guy" versus a "bad boy". Asking why women like Bad Boys is ultimately a flawed question, because they don't officially like Bad Boys. What they like are two traits that Bad Boys possess mixed in with the rest of the traits that women don't want but might tolerate due to her lack of emotional evolution and self-limiting beliefs. What's interesting is, both "nice" guys and Bad Boys are actually both polarities on the same scale/spectrum: insecurities, imbalances, and weakness. 

So let's look at the break-down:

Women know that a Bad Boy can ravish them. Bad Boys can take the lead, and lead an “exciting” life. They can shamelessly transcend all the “bad” conditioning of the Post-Feminist movement so that they can retain their masculinity and their dominance, which are the energies that women CRAVE. They are exciting. BUT….because of their ignorance and immaturity, they are unneccesariliy aggressive, domineering, volatile, selfish, tempted to be violent, angry, chauvinistic, and have enormous Madona-Whore Complexes. Why? Because he has sub-conscious esteem issues causing him to be ignorant and emotionally immature and resulting him to dis-respect women, because he does not truly- underneath it all- respect himself--he's insecure. 

Then, there’s the “Nice Guy”….

The classic nice guy makes her feel appreciated. He is very polite, well mannered, treats her the way a woman should and deserves to be treated. He is a sweet and considerate gentleman. He has integrity and dignity and gives her the chivalry she should have. Unfortunately, though, he's boring, and doesn’t feel secure with his masculinity and dominance. Therefore, his deficient masculinity and dominance, the male energies, do not inspire the sexual polarity of her feminine energy. So, she doesn't feel feminine or sexy. She doesn't feel turned on about sex because he is unintentionally crippling his masculinity which kills the polarities, and therefore the attraction, then the passion, and finally the arousal. He doesn't make her feel like the sexual being she deep down yearns to be. Therefore, since his masculinity is distorted by guilt and insecurities from the deluded social “programming” of the Feminist Movement, they do not sustain attraction, because, yet again, he is personifying a alternative variation of the above formula: he has sub-conscious esteem issues and distorted self image resulting in insecurities and is uncomfortable and guilty and insecure with truly being himself because he does not respect himself.

Second Version:

Asking if women like Bad Boys is not a yes or no question. That’s because it depends on the type of woman: if it’s a woman who’s not ‘conscious’; not emotionally and spiritually evolved, or alternatively stated, she’s confined to her biology, psychology, and neuroscience— as well as has challenges with her esteem and self-worth, then yes she’s very likely to be drawn to a bad boy.

Bad Boys aren’t afraid of owning and expressing their dominance and masculinity, which is, at the most essential level the energy which foundationally creates the sexual polarities between men and women, and parallel to that it also triggers her limbic/primal brain. That’s great, however, the bigger issue is that while that’s fundamental, most men and women are unfortunately confined to that level which, causes the woman to feel like settling for a Bad Boy because she doesn’t know any better, as she hasn’t had the fortune of expanding her consciousness yet which would change the types of guys she feels connectable to, given that Like Attracts Like.

For a woman who has a degree of conscious or self-awareness beyond her brain and mind, in other words she’s not confined to her biology, psychology, and neuroscience and is emotionally and spiritually evolved— then she’s going to have enough of a capacity to be mindful that the wisdom for what a woman like that wants is, simply stated: a sweet and kind man who has the ability to express dominance when, where, how, and to what degree, would be in his and his partner’s best interest in a given moment.

Unfortunately most men are either/or, rather than both, therefore women generally make themselves choose between the two options…leaving her with either a guy who’s nurturing and a gentleman but no sexually triggering, or a guy who does trigger her primal sexual excitement but isn’t sophisticated, evolved, or graceful. What a woman really wants is a man who is both of those combined, but she's unlikely to connect with a man with both unless she strives to personally develop herself.